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Premature
ejaculation - or in other words, coming too quickly - is one of the most
common of all sexual problems. Many men suffer from premature
ejaculation.
It is more
common in younger men - which is not surprising, as there's a distinct
tendency for it to improve with age. Men generally get better control as
they grow older.
Premature
ejaculation makes people unhappy and frustrated. And in severe cases
premature ejaculation can threaten or even ruin a marriage - simply because
it spoils the sex lives of both partners. Sometimes, the condition is so bad
that the man cannot even manage to have intercourse because he invariably
ejaculates before he even enters the vagina. This can be devastating for a man's self-confidence.
And it can be hugely frustrating and annoying for his partner, too.
For many years,
sex experts have tended to say that premature ejaculation is caused by early
conditioning. In other words, the man's early, rushed and perhaps
furtive sexual experiences had to be quick - so as to avoid detection!
The
theory is that this hectic rush conditions men to climax as quickly as
possible.
Research shows
that this is actually not
true. Surveys
have revealed that many men with premature ejaculation claim that they did not
have rushed, hasty early sexual experiences. Most of them were
highly triggered right from the beginning of their sex lives.
It's worth
noting that from an evolutionary point of view, it's probable that
throughout human history, males who climaxed quickly were more likely to
have children. The tendency to reach orgasm quickly may actually be
an inherited state rather than a learned one. But life has changed and sexuality is
nowadays not only about reproduction.
Finally, there's
no question that anxiety plays a part in many cases of premature ejaculation.
If you're nervous, you're likely to come too quickly (or not at all).
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